Perfectionism

So where does perfectionism come from?? I beleive it comes from wanting to be accepted..For instance, if a child gets yelled at all the time, this child may think well if i dont do anything wrong, then i can't get yelled at, so this child tries to be perfect in every way, does everything perfect never wanting to make a mistake. The only thing is....no one is perfect, no one will ever be perfect, everyone makes mistakes and that is why we have the step about making amends, for those mistakes that we do make.

The problem with the above scenario, is when the child does get yelled at..because she/he will...they will try all the more to be perfect until it becomes an obsession and will carry this child into adulthood not even realizing how it is destroying her/his life. The thing is, the child is getting yelled at because the person doing the yelling needs help/not the child, but of course the child doesn't know that in her/his little mind.

perfectionism can destroy a life, can destroy a marriage and can destroy children. Everyone cannot meet the perfectionists standards and therefore feel inferior and not good enough.

Some times just letting things go is for the best.