Guilt~so much of it!!

Guilt, ohhh that feeling of doing something wrong to someone. Did you know that there is earned and unearned guilt. Earned guilt is when you did something wrong to someone, and you know it, and you refuse to apologize, the guilt will eat you up inside. Unearned guilt is when someone is trying to MAKE YOU FEEL guilty. For instance, if your daughter asks you to go out to eat, and you say, not today, money is low, and they throw that, "oh we never go out to eat, you don't care about me" thing in your face. That is unearned guilt. We may feel guilty at saying "No' because it is a new behavior for us. But saying "yes" all the time, will make us into a doormat, and people will walk all over us. So i guess, my advise, say yes when you mean yes and say no when you mean no, no more people pleasing...