the 12 steps

The 12 steps of Al anon are almost the same as the 12 steps of aa. There is only one word change in the 12 steps of al anon. The twelfth step says we tried to carry this message to others, in aa it says we tried to carry this message to other alcoholics.

the first step, some say the hardest one... We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable.

in al anon we can say we are powerless over others, or over people, places, and things. This is what i like, because my serenity depends on my accepting the fact that i am indeed powerless over all people, places, and things. When i try to force something to happen, i loose my serenity. For instance, i am powerless over a 150 car train on the tracks when i am stuck behing the tracks and am running late for an appointment. If i forget my powerlessness, i can become very perturbed that i have to wait there and be even more late than i already am. When i accept that i am powerless, i admit that i cannot make that train go any faster than it already is. And me losing my serenity and becoming angry won't change a darn thing.

step two...came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
WOW!!! Now it doesn't say God, because some people don't beleive, have a hard time beleiving, or use to beleive and now don't because so much bad has happened to them. So a power greater than ourselves could be any power that you want to pray to. Some newcomers are suggested that maybe "the group" can be their higher power until they can beleive in their own...